I had a doctor's appointment earlier this week to have my c-section incision checked. Everything looks good! No infections and it's healing nicely. Can't believe how small it is and that this boy was pulled out of there.. Anyway, my doctor told us that when they went in there, they were concerned because the top left side of my uterus was really thin. He said if we planned on having another baby, I could do a VBAC if the baby was small like 6-7 lbs. But he strongly suggested I do a c-section. It made me sad to think I'd never have that natural experience. And going through this recovery process, I don't know if I can do it anymore than one or maybe two times. Chase and I had always talked about having 3 or 4. Now it's down to 2.
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He is so so cute. Im sorry to hear that news. Just pray for guidance and things will work out. My aunt who is paralyzed and has spina bifida was told she could never have children and she has 2! Just dont get too discouraged :)
The right hand picture is killing me! He is sooo sweet!!! So glad that you are recovering and have such a beautiful son.
He is so handsome. And I'm so glad that despite all the complications, you're both doing well. My husband and I had always dreamed of having 4, but after my post-partum (for about 18 months) after our first, we don't even know how to have a second. I hope you get the confirmation you need to feel good about your choices in the future, whatever they may be.
OMG HE IS SO CUTE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I love that he totally looks Asian right now. Because Asian babies are the cutest. I just want to squeeze his cheeks.
And second babies are usually bigger than the first, so... yeah. I remember for the first month after having my first, I was like, "I AM NEVER EVER GETTING PREGNANT AND HAVING ANOTHER BABY BECAUSE THIS SUCKED" but then two years later you have a toddler running around and it's like, "I need a tiny baby that will be content sleeping in my arms instead of this little boy that can't sit still and will only hug me for a maximum of 3 seconds."
Plus you and chase make super cute babies so you should have more. A lot more.
It's always harder to recover from both a full day of labor, pushing, AND an emergency c-section. My daughter's birth story is nearly identical to yours and man, the recovery was terrible. But several of my friends who've had multiple c-sections have said the recovery from a planned c-sec is waaaay better. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that that is true. :)
its such a rough thing! i had the same thing happen- I had to have a csection with my first- and I am too scared to try a VBAC- I am on #3- and it might be my last too. I just think these things happen for a reason and maybe 3 is what we are meant to have ? I dont know, helps me cope with it a little better :(
This gives me so much hope!! Thanks :)
Thanks for sharing with us so honestly. I'm 26 weeks along with my first right now and just found out that I may have placenta previa. I was pretty heartbroken when the doc told me, because I was hoping to have as natural of a birth as possible. Now I'm looking at a possible early (36-37 weeks if there are no other complications) scheduled c-section and a whole slew of other issues. (if you google too much about it you start finding things like "possible emergency hysterectomy". thanks, internet onset hypochondria)
All that to say, what has really been encouraging to me right now is that God's plans are bigger than my plans and knowing it isn't a failure to have complications that require medical intervention. Stories like yours keep me positive. I think one of the great things about all this is that you don't have to make a decision right now on how many baby Hearns you are gonna have. Enjoy baby Grey, and someday later when your body has recovered you and Chase can decide what is best for your family.
When you have recovered and time has passed get a second or even third opinion. My sister had an emergency cesarean and because of how the incision was done she could not have a vbac. She did have two more children but there fertility problems, blah, blah, blah. After her last pregnancy she was told that it would be dangerous to get pregnant again because of so much scarring on her uterus (I'm leaving out a lot of details here). Anyway, she wanted another baby but several doctors recommended against it. So her husband got a vasectomy and they decided to adopt. When she got discouraged about the adoption process they decided to see a new doctor and after some tests the new doctor gave her encouraging news. So the vasectomy was reversed and then miracle of miracles they ended up adopting a sweet baby girl. Anyway, my point is that medicine continues to improve. Don't decide right now about how big your family should be. Take it one pregnancy/delivery at a time. Enjoy your baby, your hubby, and your life.
I just went through a really similar experience (I labored all night and day and ended up with a c-section)-- my baby was born on Feb 5th. I hope you're doing better! Hang in there and know you're not alone! My husband and I were thinking 3-4 too and now like you, I'm not so sure I'm up for it-- phew!
I'm dying! He is the cutest!
My 1st included hours of pushing, the doc trying to use a vacuum thing to pull her out (awful...blood everywhere....very painful!) all on no pain meds, and then a c-section. Recovery from all that was long and hard. With my 2nd my doc told me I could try VBAC but she really recommended a scheduled c-section, so I did that and recovery was SOOOO much easier. Then we had #'s 3 & 4 all scheduled c's. Done now, not regretting those c-sections. :)
Thank you for sharing!! I'm so happy to know your sister was able to show those doctors miracles do happen.
My cousin had four (FOUR!) c-sections in a fairly short period of time and seemed to recover fairly quickly so I'm betting having them scheduled is probably a lot easier (though still painful sounding!).
Your baby is super-adorable. :)
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